Strong relationships are built on more than just love- it is built on healthy habits with each other. There are various theories suggesting a few solid healthy habits starting from effective communication models to collaborating on working together on a project with a deep sense of understanding.

Couples’ Therapists at The Trauma Healing Center picked up a few most commonly reported statements by couples in sessions that indicate some common habits that impact relationship, such as:

Sarah Azzam– “I wish my partner can listen and validate me rather than problem solve, sometimes I just want to be heard.”

Samantha Rahaman– “We keep having the same argument over and over, and nothing gets resolved”

Vidhi Joshi– “We just don’t talk anymore to avoid fighting, we’ve become more like roommates than partners”.

Arushi Bajaj– “It feels like no matter what I do (for them), it never feels good enough”

 

These statements indicate that the couple may have:

  • Emotional Disconnection
  • Communication Issues
  • Trust and Jealousy
  • Financial Stress
  • Clashes in Parenting Styles
  • Uneven Responsibilities
  • Resentment and/or Disrespect
  • Lack of Intimacy

It is found that good habits around being an effective speaker and a good listener can positively affect the relationship. According to Gottman Rapoport Intervention, couples can choose to identify some rules or etiquettes around a given conversation. They identified the rules to be an effective listener because in most couples, the biggest challenge is that they do not feel heard, they seem to be repeating themselves often and to a point that they feel the need to give up. Conversations turn into conflicts because people are listening to respond and not to understand. Offering a safe and non-judgmental space to your partner can be game game-changing aspect of a given relationship.

 

Here are top 5 relationship habits that are encouraged for couples to practice on regular basis:

  • Practice Active Listening Daily
  • Emotional Check-ins (Even if it is for 5 minutes)
  • Apply the tools outside the therapy session
  • Build a culture of genuine appreciation
  • Learn to take the ownership; pause to reflect and not blow up the conflict; build a culture of conflict resolution.

To learn more about couples counselling, contact us and book your first initial free consultation for 20 minutes.